The Young and the Undone

I am undone. I realized this a couple of days ago.

Well, it's obvious I'm young. However, like so many youth today, I'm "blissfully" unaware that I'm not prepared for something as challenging as romance. I've been telling myself for many years that I'm not ready for this, but my mind and heart were just not into such a notion.

Some people say that I'm of age; that I can actually start thinking about being with someone. There's one problem, though: I'm not a 100% willing to consider it. I don't want to be that guy who's quite dependent on a woman's love. Rather, I want and need to be fully dependent on the love that has always been there for me: the Lord's.

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It may seem cheesy or cliché-ish for some, but it's what I need. For numerous reasons, actually, it's what we all need. We have to realize that it's unfair to offer our "love" and "devotion" to someone when we're only fueled or driven by emotions or by the idea that having someone "to have and to hold" can just solve our longings. It's like giving someone a bike, but the wheels are missing.

I know it's so easy to hope for someone to love us, especially since we long to find "God's will" as soon as possible. However, I personally think it's more rational to hope for a better relationship with God. If we have God in our lives, we wouldn't be too concerned about having a date this coming Friday (February 14). Possibly, we wouldn't even think about it at all.

Not being in a romantic relationship right now isn't necessarily a crutch. It's an opportunity. We have the chance to continue the process of self-discovery and be made complete while serving God as singles. It may be a bit cliché, but it's true. Just think about this for a sec:

If we're not satisfied yet with our relationship with the Perfect Lover, how can we ever be satisfied with any other relationship?